Life Lessons

Life Lessons: How to find your true love

Life Lessons: How to find your true love

Lauren West is young, smart, and attractive but says she struggles finding the "one" even though she goes on date, after date, after date.

"You want to find someone that you want to be able to spend time with, like have someone there for you, and someone that can like support you in a number of different ways," says West.

Like West, Ellen Morrow says her endless dates usually turned to disappointment.

"I just met people and went out on dates even if they weren't perfect or specific to what I was looking for," explains Morrow.

Dating expert Stef Safran says that's the problem with serial dating.

"I think that there's too much focus that there's so much available for you as opposed to finding those basic criteria when you start that are important to you," Safran said.

She says before starting to date, you should answer these 10 questions about yourself:

* Are you willing to commit?
* What are your financial values?
* Is religion important?
* Do you want children?
* Where do you want to live?
* How do you handle conflict?
* Are you able to care for someone?
* Do you like to go out or are you a homebody?
* Do you lead an active or sedentary lifestyle?
* Are you willing to try new things?

"You have to know: are you looking for a relationship and what does that mean to you," Safran said.

Safran says whether you meet someone in person or online, it's important to find out beforehand or on a first date if they have similar values. If not, don't waste your time.

"People need to understand that when they are dating, when people give you information and if someone says something that you can really tell is a deal breaker, you need to listen to that," Safran said.

She says too many women waste time thinking they can change someone.

Thanks to her advice, Morrow is in a committed relationship and while West is still looking, she's stopped serial dating and only spends time with guys she thinks are compatible.

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