Are kids these days as respectful as they were 20 years ago?
Most parents want to raise kind, respectful children, but is it getting more difficult?
Some feel reality TV, movies and music are making kids more disrespectful than ever before. Is it true and what's a parent to do?
Concerned mom Christie Stump says after seeing how some kids behave, she's worried about how her own kids will turn out.
She says, "Respecting their elders I don't think is something that's taught as much as it was."
Psychotherapist Dr. Karen Ruskin, who is a family therapist and parenting expert, believes this is the problem.
"Parents are the difference that makes the difference. I believe that there are parents that think they're doing really great parenting, and it's not really great parenting," says Ruskin.
She says a big mistake parents make is not stopping their kids when they're disrespectful.
"They don't use it as a learning opportunity for their child and you know what, that child becomes an adult that is rude and nasty to others."
The doctor says it's also important to set clear boundaries, like telling kids they need to knock before entering their parents' bedroom if the door's closed.
Ruskin says, "You must do the same thing too. 'Oh, a young child, I should knock on their door?' Oh yes you should! Teaching them that you respect their bubble and thus they will then in turn respect your bubble."
She adds parents should make sure their kids know they're a valuable part of making family decisions.
"Doesn't mean you do exactly what they say, but you certainly respect their voice, hear it, and process it."
Dr. Ruskin knows her parenting philosophy doesn't sit well with everyone.
"Some people disagree, but they need help. They're willing to try anything."
The doctor adds that if you chose to discipline your child for being disrespectful, the form of discipline is up to you.
She points out though that the American Academy of Pediatrics does not recommend spanking as a form of punishment.
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